Friday, August 3, 2012

Ohhhhh, I really wanted to slap that look right off her face!

Sadly, I am talking about my 12 year old grand daughter.  I went to my Daughter's yesterday because they just received notice that they are being evicted in 2 weeks.  Her husband works 6 weeks at a time in which ever state they send him.  He won't be home until a day or so after the eviction.  He asked for permission to go home and help with all this.  He is waiting for am answer.  They have $$ now but when you haven't paid your mortgage in 4 years......yeah, not good.  At least they are all caught up on their utilities.   And all my advice has fallen on deaf ears so I just went over there to go to the library to use the computers there to look for places to rent.  Ended up being a productive day although I can't get her to change her spending or how she mother's her children..  At least make them meals. Plan ahead, etc.  They have a fridge and 2 freezers full of food.

The thing with Meadow?  Yes, all Dawn's kids are and have been under so much stress.  But Meadow?  She gets this extremely haughty face on her and ignores her mom and now me also!  We dropped her off at the batting cages and Dawn arranged for the coach to bring her home.  Meadow was livid.  The coach's wife was there and Dawn usually keeps these things private but some how started talking to the coach's wife.  Turns out she has a friend that is renting out a 3 bedroom house.  Hopefully things will work out.  One way or another they always do.  Anyway, we could not bring her home because we had to pick up Cain at the airport.  Meadow acts like we should have stayed and/or picked her up from batting practice.  Really? And leave Cain at the airport?
After we got home, Meadow was being all nice and everything.  I can't flip the switch that soon.  The disrespect was too blatant. For her to have acted like she did and to also push me away when I tried to hug her?  Oh No.  That doesn't fly with me.

I have raised both a son and a daughter and yes, boys are so much easier.  My kids weren't perfect.  Far from it.  But I would categorize them as typical teens.  I honestly wanted to smack that look right off Meadow's face.  I have never, EVER hit a kid, mine included.  But boy.......you have no idea.

Well, I will close asI have to help Hunter put up a pair of mini-blinds.  Yeah, I know.  But I will help him anyway.  In the mean time,....enjoy the 100 degree temps today.  I know I will!

9 comments:

My name WAS Female, I shit you not! said...

I can sense your frustration and hurt.sighhhhhhhhhh

We will alway be the mothers of our children and hurt when they hurt.
Why can't things ever be easy???
Why,why,why.
(((hugs)))Pat

Jennifer Kay said...

My kids are still so small but I keep telling myself...if I stayed up all night long scrubbing puke out of the carpet and all the other things we have to do as mothers and someday they turn on me? I might just kill them myself.

Just Be Real said...

Hugs to your frustration dear one.

Sarah (Nikki) said...

what is it with these 100 degree temps????? About what you said...here listening....

Gnetch said...

Most kids these days have that kind of attitude for some reason. What you're feeling is just appropriate to how she acted. (Hugs.)

Jimmy said...

Sad to say it sounds pretty normal for the age, not that I am making excuses for her it just appears to be the Norm now days.

bj said...

O, I have days like this, too. Guess we all do. I have bitten my tongue so many times, it's a dang wonder I can even speak anymore. Wish you lived close..we could give ea other a big hug. and then go have a glass of wine...or two...or.....

So sorry about your daughter losing her home. I hope things work out for them.

Yep, I like polka dots, too, but these seem to fly up and hit me in the face every morning. Well, they're ok....

hang in there.....:))

lotta joy said...

Our grandchildren are all being raised with a sense of entitlement. They don't ask, request, or even wish and hope. They demand and receive. I understand your feelings: they are formed out of the knowledge that you CAN'T knock the expression off her face.

Shen said...

It is so hard when kids behave this way, but kids do - especially kids who are hurting. The only way I can get past it is to remember it isn't about me. Taking it personally hurts, but knowing that it is just the frustration of that child and what they are unable to deal with in their own life and not really about me at all can make it much easier on MY feelings.

It's great that you can be helpful to them in the hour of need. In the long run, that's what's important- how we care, how we love. That will help teach these kids what it means to love. Keep doing what you're doing. :-)