Here's the good about my man for all who wonder WTF is she doing with him. In the beginning God created,...er, um,...Anyway, I have always been friendly (if you catch my drift) and especially 20 years ago! Perfect match. I have to say that I realize he can be so charming and delightful. I am not saying that is really who he is though. He worked his ass off and most of his $$ went to child support and what was then called maintenance. I basically supported him for four+ years. He helped me raise two teenagers. I have come to realize quite a few truths about him. (I have seen him cry and he has actually apologized a couple times). The saving grace here is that he does realize what he is like in real life. I am finally able to see through the 16 yr. old boy, full of bravado and bullshit. I see the man he wants to be. He does have a heart. He does have feelings. He gets scared and has feelings of worthlessness. He knows he takes his anger at his own failings or anger at others out on me. My therapist talked with me quite a bit and also met with him and we were somehow able to see a pattern of stressors associated with his "naughty" behavior. She named it anxiety and WOW, did she hit the nail on the head. None of what I'm saying excuses his behavior BTW.